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Why does our brain get stuck in a whirl, keeping us focused on past events, fearful futures, or rehearsing every move to the point we hesitate or stall before commenting or acting?

There are a number of reasons, including some that require medical attention, so always see your doctor if you are feeling crippled by your thinking.

Then, go within.

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Relentlessly revisiting uncomfortable experiences is a mental trap. Image by Artem Kovalev on Unsplash

Survival Patterns

If we experience emotionally heavy or difficult situations at any point in our lives, but most often as a small child, we can activate our conscious mind to ‘keep us safe’.

This is not the true role of the conscious mind – which is only one of the three main intelligence systems we have.

The 3 Intelligence Systems

Our heart contains our life passion and is where the saying ‘follow your heart!’ came from. Our heart is connected to our guidance system and is the space we need to access to align ourselves with purpose and the joy that follows.

The gut also holds intelligence. It is where we feel our ‘gut instinct’ and I like to think of it as a ‘traffic cop’. The part that gives us a swift warning, re-directing us if we are too in our heads. An aside – gut health issues can stem from doubting our gut instinct or if the gut is being constantly provoked to send alerts.

The brain’s sole purpose is to finds ways to make what our heart wants possible. It isn’t meant to check and chide, or to hold us bound in fear of what others may think, say, or do.

So how does our brain, our Ego, swell to develop this incredibly over-active role?

When we feel a series of heavy emotions and have no means of processing them, we can sub-consciously give over the role our heart plays to the brain. This often occurs as small children, either pre-verbal or if our parents don’t know how to process difficult emotions. And there is no judgment needed around this – we choose our parents for the wounds and strengths they give us. The importance of dealing with emotions is only beginning to be understood and our parents could not give us something they themselves did not have.

Our brain, then, will move into high alert, keeping us focused on any possible threat of emotions that may make us ‘unsafe’. We become very good at scanning the room, effectively becoming human radars looking for any sign of turbulence, and often highly empathic to others’ emotions. We can then modify our behaviour accordingly, including withdrawing if need be.

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Human radars - we can become very good at scanning the room to get an 'emotional reading'. Image on Pixabay

A Life Half Lived

This mode restricts us, keeps us living with the illusion of control, and prevents us from fully experiencing life - the main reason we came into this physical life. Over time, all sorts of imbalances will develop from the flawed belief that we must become invulnerable to emotions to ‘stay safe’. One of the main clues is anxiety which occurs when we are being dictated to by our brains and not aligned with our heart. This is our body’s way of communicating that operating predominantly from the brain is not healthy.

Why? Because our emotions are connected to our heart, to our guidance system.

Vulnerability Matters

If we don’t allow ourselves to feel our emotions, effectively to allow ourselves to be vulnerable, we become disconnected from who we are. And who we are is definitely not anxiety.

Most will then say, I don’t want to be vulnerable. It isn’t safe. And, no it doesn’t feel safe because no one has ever taught us the function of emotions or what to do with them when we feel uncomfortable.

Our Higher Self will provoke situations that create certain emotions to guide us: either to seek more of the same, or to alert us. The comfortable emotions invite us to find more ways of feeling great. The uncomfortable emotions feel uncomfortable because whatever that feeling is – shame, anger, fear- they are not who we are. We are being invited to choose something different, in the right timing for us. Of course, we may not understand the message straight away and so we will repeat certain experiences as many times as we need, often feeling more uncomfortable each time. This is our guidance.

Processing Emotions

To process emotions, we need to feel them.

This does not need to be for an extended period. We feel the emotion, let it flow through our body and out through our breath, our feet and hands. Bare feet planted on earth helps this release.

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Let emotions leave the body - grounding helps. Image by Jordan Whitt-SobX on Unsplash

Then examine the message. What was our Higher Self trying to communicate? If someone hurt our feelings for example, we are being asked to consider why someone else’s opinion affects us. People are our mirror. When we feel criticism it is usually to alert us to the fact we are being critical of ourselves. We can choose not to criticise ourselves and no longer attract it to ourselves (Read more about how to deal with self-criticism in the blog, Why you need to Love and Accept Yourself).

We then consider what to do with this message. Often, it is as simple as creating a boundary. Someone offers criticism, we understand it is because they are criticising themselves, and we acknowledge their comment but take no notice of it. Again, we can do this because it is about them, not us.

Once we understand that we attract experiences to help us with our growth, we no longer need to resent others for their words or behaviours and this brings a whole other level of inner peace. (I highly recommend Colin Tipping’s Radical Forgiveness if you wish to explore this further.)

One other point to consider is the belief that we need to be focused on others’ negative situations, it’s so sad, they are having such a hard time, it’s tragic. All of these thoughts and more indicate we have energetically ‘climbed into the hole’ with another. This doesn’t help them, nor does it help us. We are asked to believe that others also have the ability to listen to the messages created by their emotions – in their right timing. Love them. Believe in them - and stay out of their experience.

So all of this is well and good, but how do we shift our thinking?

I recommend the following ‘boardroom’ activity as a starting point, followed by awareness and diversion.

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Go within. Image by Katerina Jerabkova on Unsplash

Step 1

Find a comfortable space, close your eyes, take a deep breath and relax. Imagine you are standing outside of your own boardroom, the power base of the organisation that is you.

Open the door and notice a boardroom table with four chairs, one positioned at the top for the Chairperson, with three others for the executive team. In the room are you, your heart, your head and your gut. Notice where they are sitting. Who is sitting in the chairperson’s seat? Usually, it is the conscious mind, with you and the heart and gut positioned in the executive team chairs. This is an indication that you have asked your conscious mind to act outside of its correct role. And that is okay. We do this when we don’t have the skills we need to cope, and in effect it is a juvenile survival strategy. Well done! It is needed until we feel ready to learn how to process emotions and understand the significance of our emotions as our guidance system.

If you are ready to accept this guidance and step into your power, it is time to restructure your organisation. This is done respectfully, thanking all parts for the role they have played to keep you safe. Explain you are now resuming your role as chairperson. For particularly stubborn or sensitive Egos, we add that it must be exhausted from carrying the load and it can now take some well earned rest as it works equally as part of your team. This is not as silly as it may seem – adrenal fatigue is often linked to an overactive brain. Then assure all that you are a team, that you will listen to each and appreciate their guidance. An effective team creates the healthy board essential to any organisation!

Step 2

Secondly, we understand that we can do the energetic work, however, it is never without our personal commitment. 50:50. When we use a strategy over time, we create a pattern or habit of thought. Now it is essential that we coach our conscious mind and support it to operate within its job description, creating new patterns. The more we do this, the easier it will become and the less often we will need to do it.

Notice when your thoughts have raced out of control, focused on a negative or in a thinking rut. This part that has the ability to notice, to look at what your brain/Ego is doing is who you really are. The chairperson of your organisation. Say, I see what you [the brain] are doing. I choose to understand that I am a learner, learning through my experiences. Then, either examine the scenario the brain is focused on for the lesson, the message. Once you have the message, understand you no longer need the experience and let it go. Or, if the brain is focused on nonsense, negative or critical thinking, assert your power to dismiss the thought. Now, refocus on something pleasant; the sky, a flower, a peaceful picture … anything! Keep bringing your attention back to that pleasant thought. This is how we retrain our thinking.

Raising Energetic Vibration to Influence our Experiences

A side note: 17 seconds or longer of a pleasant thought raises our vibration to a positive point of attraction. The more we are in a peaceful state of mind, the fewer barriers we create, allowing beautiful experiences into our lives.

Most of all, please remember we are not our thoughts, our conscious mind, our Ego.

We didn’t come into this life to suffer from our thinking. If this resonates and you feel you need further support, please see your doctor, and then make an appointment to address the cause.



Kinesiologist/QHHT Practitioner/Energy Therapist

© Lakeside Kinesiology


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