Updated: Jul 2, 2018
Why do we do the things we do?
This week started with ponderings about why we do the things we do and led to considering the patterns families hand down through generations.
The positive, warm and fuzzy things we do– exchanging Christmas decorations each year, an Easter egg hunt, the special way we celebrate a birthday, or how to prepare a traditional family dish.
And the less beneficial - repeating an unrelenting family work ethic with little room for leisure. Or looking after ourselves only when every member of the family has been taken care of – father first, children and then mum. A leftover remnant from when women played a supporting role to the sole income provider.
It's about context
We build our world through our context. That is, our familial teachings and experiences handed down from parent to child, generation to generation, often without question and creating the lens through which we view the world.
What happens when we accept our family patterns without question?
A light-hearted example comes to mind with a story that circulated some time ago about a young woman roasting a turkey. When questioned why she cut the drumsticks off before roasting, she states that’s how her mother did it. The mother is asked and she says that that is how her mother did it. When grandma is asked she says her oven was too small to fit the entire roast.
Clearly an effective solution for the time and place! The point is, unless we question whether the tradition (habit) still serves us, we may not be acting in our best interest. Or worse.
Celebrating and Evaluating
The clues sit in how you feel about what you are doing. Does your task bring joy? Or does merely thinking about your routine feel exhausting. Taking some time to evaluate what we do and why we do it creates an opportunity for transformation. Of course, keep the wonderful traditions or modify as needed, but let go of those that no longer serve.
Some shifts are easily made, however, if your patterns are ingrained and change feels like a struggle, make an appointment today.
Live your best life. You deserve it.