Your body can do it. It’s your mind that needs convincing.

So you have great goals. Get fit, be more productive, succeed at work, or whatever they may be.

The first week is strong – you’re committed. The second week, not quite as keen but still getting out and doing your thing. The third week enthusiasm has waned and by the fourth week you seem to have returned to where you started.

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So you have great goals. Image: Joshua Earle on Unsplash

This is a pattern repeated all around us. The timeline might not be exact – some will never answer the first alarm set to launch them from a comfortable bed and into training, and others may manage the new routine for 6 months before backsliding.

Why? We want to feel better, we know it is good for us, we want a better life.

How can we succeed if we don’t know what underpins that backslide, the self-sabotage?

I recently worked with a client (let’s call him James) who could clearly identify the self-sabotage but could not identify what was causing it. James was committed, had the necessary skills to succeed, and really wanted to be healthy.


James related a recent sabotage. A couple of weeks into making his goals his reality, life in general was going well and he hadn’t missed a gym session. To cut a long story short, James had a win at work and the sabotage pattern kicked in. Feeling happy with his achievement (and a little overwhelmed) he had a couple of drinks to celebrate, made poor eating choices and decided to return to his ‘new habits’ tomorrow. Slightly seedy the next morning he again decided to return to his ‘new habits’ tomorrow. He did…but again it wasn’t for the long term and James was soon back to old habits.

Why the struggle?

James thought he was struggling with whether he deserved to succeed at work but when we muscle tested, there was another pattern running subconsciously. We came to understand that James was actually rebelling. As this subconscious pattern unravelled he relayed there had been great expectation placed on him during his younger years. He would succeed at the highest level and was being further driven by a work ethic that only allowed rest once all the work was done. James’ subconscious was still behaving like a teenage rebel. If he didn’t succeed, this expectation and unrelenting work drive would be thwarted. In a way this was the ultimate payback - that will show them!

angsty teen
When our subconscious acts like an angsty teen. Image: by Redd Angelo on Unsplash

This, of course, makes no sense to the logic mind. It is a subconscious pattern that operates in the background and influences the actions we take.

It's our mind that needs convincing.

As thinking adults we can choose to let go of patterns that no longer serve us. How would James ever have been able to deduce this subconscious pattern? Yet once this old pattern was exposed, he could see how it had been playing out in his life and readily chose to let it go – James had no need to act like a teenage rebel. The necessary corrections were made and a new pattern to embrace success in conjunction with work/life balance was instilled.

Do you feel like you have a self-sabotage pattern running in the background? Many of us do. If this resonates with you, contact me for an appointment today.


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